[first, a note to my Farmer: don't read this one, honey - at least not till 2012. trust me.]
becoming a "loose" woman . . .
Uptight wife? This book, The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle, will loosen your clenched fingers and help you to relax again and enjoy the man you married.
Her subtitle, "A practical guide to finding intimacy, passion, and peace with a man" says it all. This book is truly practical, packed with examples from the wives in her "Surrendered Circles" and from Doyle's own marriage as well. Reminding us that intimacy is our goal, not marital control, Doyle cheers us on to take care of our needs, admit we can't do it all, receive graciously, let our man be a man, and be a woman ourselves.
All this from a self-professed "feminist and former shrew." Doyle acknowledges that the feminist manifesto did not work in her marriage. She gave it the boot, has no regrets, and currently enjoys being cherished and pampered by her man.
A caveat: if you have thought all along that you were doing a great job of appearing "submissive" to your husband and letting him think that he's holding the reins, watch out. Your bubble is in danger of being burst. Your man is smarter than you think - he likely knows just what you're doing, and lets you - because he loves you. Give Doyle's theory a chance; you may gain more than you ever thought possible.
Trust pays awesome dividends.